How counselling can change your future.........

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.” Albert Ellis

  • Do you feel stuck in a situation where you're struggling to see the way forward?

  • Are you suffering the effects of stress, anxiety, depression, lack of confidence?

  • Have you developed the habit of ignoring how you feel?

  • Do you try to reassure those around you that you are coping, when the reality is rather different?

9 Ways that Counselling can Change your Life for the Better

1. Live more in the moment

If you have anxiety or depression, you might spend a good deal of time either worrying about the future or regretting the past. Counselling can help you live more mindfully in the present and to feel more peaceful and connected to the world.

2. Understand why you do things

Perhaps you overeat, or self-harm, lose your temper or drink too much.    Maybe you're bemused or ashamed by your behaviour and wonder why you can’t "just stop"?     Counselling provides a safe place to explore your ambivalence and fears about change.

3. Begin to value yourself

Maybe you have become adept at pleasing others. Counselling can help you to recognise the value in showing yourself true consideration and empathy.

4. Make sense of the past

Your life experiences have influenced the person you are today. There can be exceptional value gained in understanding the past. Old wounds can be healed and painful experiences re-evaluated.

5. Your relationships can become more meaningful

In counselling you may come to appreciate the relationships which are important to you and warrant further investment. You might also decide to take a step back from relationships that are toxic or hindering your well-being. The therapeutic relationship of counselling offers a practice arena for relationships in the real world.

6. Become braver and less anxious

Do you experience the world as a fearful and antagonising place? You might have had experiences that seem to validate this world view. Counselling can support you in healing from these difficult experiences. You can begin to create a happier, more positive and confident path through life.

7. Loving yourself and others

An inner contentment can be found when you feel that you can be ‘you’. When you start to experience that your counsellor accepts and values you for who and what you are, this can be an incredibly powerful, healing and joyful experience.

8. Self-awareness changes everything

Developing self-awareness allows you to become an observer. You begin to make sense of things, which brings a sense of clarity and understanding. This puts you in the mindset to consider change.

9. Notice your thoughts and begin to manage them

With 60,000-plus thoughts (and many repetitive ones) running through your mind every day, your thoughts shape your mood and life. Once you begin to notice ‘the chatterbox’ in your head, you are suddenly more in command of your thinking.

Managing Stress and Anxiety

April 2021 update   :   Stress and Anxiety Management (SAM) Group. 

Are you worried or stressed about something, to the point where it is affecting your everyday life?

If so, then this supportive and confidential group which meets on Tuesday afternoons may be of help to you.

The SAM group provides a comforting, helpful and safe environment, in which to find ways to cope with anxiety. If you suffer from anxiety, consider participating in the SAM group. It can change life for the better.
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Many people suffer from some form of anxiety disorder at one point or another in their lives. We've had a very strange few months and anxiety, with its ability to significantly affect our mental well-being, is on the increase at the moment. It is important to understand what anxiety is and how to prevent it from taking over our daily lives.

Research shows that group cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) could be the most effective anxiety treatment of all. This is because it results in greater social exposure and interaction with people dealing with similar problems. Group CBT with a qualified therapist in a suitable group has proven to significantly improve a person’s mental well-being and quality of life.

Read on for more information about anxiety, how it affects us and why working with others, in a group of people who are also experiencing similar feelings, can help us to overcome them.

What is Anxiety?

We all know the nervous feeling we get before an important meeting, job interview or exam – we feel restless and uncomfortable, not knowing how it will go. This anxiety is normal and understandable.

However, when we start to feel anxious in an uncontrollable manner, in situations that would not usually bring out such emotions, that’s when anxiety becomes a problem. It can have severe consequences and prevent us from living a normal, healthy life.

Benefits of Groups for Anxiety

If you are suffering from stress or anxiety, then meeting in a group is an excellent way to deal with this problem. By spending time with others who are experiencing similar difficulties, we are able to get the support we need and find comfort in the fact that we are not alone. By exploring our situation within a confidential and safe group, we are able to find effective ways to deal with anxiety and stress, help others and in turn obtain help ourselves.  At the start of each meeting, the confidential nature of what is discussed is reinforced and each member agrees to respect the confidence of the group.

You are Not Alone

People who suffer from anxiety can often feel isolated. We see others who seem to survive through situations every day without any apparent mental or emotional discomfort, and feel that we are the only ones struggling to go about our daily lives. Anxiety and stress make us question why everything is so difficult for us to manage, which can lead to feelings of depression and loneliness.

Working on these feelings in a group with others who are struggling with the same problems removes this feeling of isolation. You can share your problems with your support group, knowing they will understand and help you.

Improves Social Skills

Communicating, and being able to connect with people, can become difficult when you have negative emotions building up inside of you. Many people with anxiety limit their social and interpersonal activities, and experience sadness or frustration as a result.

Working together in a group encourages people to communicate with others and explore their emotions, instead of hiding them. This boosts confidence and helps us to deal differently with the feelings of anxiety and stress.

Opportunity to Learn About Yourself

Group work shows us more about who we are as a person. You will be encouraged to talk about how different situations make you feel, and your biggest fears and challenges. Opening up about such matters in a safe space, helped by an experienced therapist, is an incredibly powerful and liberating experience – it helps you to accept your feelings and find the best ways to live with them.

Access to an Extended Support System

The Stress and Anxiety Management group isn’t about the therapist providing support to one member at a time while others observe. Instead, every member is encouraged to provide feedback and support to others, so everyone has a chance to connect with one another. This kind of sharing is a source of hope, inspiration, and encouragement for all involved.

Practice for Stressful Real-Life Situations

Members of the group are given the opportunity to practice responding to different scenarios, including those that are likely to be a cause of stress. When people are able to practice their skills safely and learn to cope with difficult situations effectively, their confidence in tackling real-life problems significantly improves.

Knowing that they have a support group to rely on also makes people stronger and braver. When we know there are people who care about us and want us to succeed, we do much better in life.

Opportunity to Help Others

In a group setting, members not only benefit from other members’ experiences and support, but are also able to extend their support to others to help them cope with their anxiety. When it comes to anxiety, every individual is on a different journey and has his or her own obstacles and challenges to deal with. You are also likely to find people from different backgrounds and ages in a support group. Due to this, everyone can learn something from each others' experience.

Providing others with support and fostering friendships makes us feel good about ourselves. Knowing that we are making a positive difference in someone else’s journey is an ultimate confidence-booster.